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>>23173226
Is pair bonding real? And could my husband still be pairbonded to the only other woman he has slept with?

He never dated or had a gf until I came along. And his only other experience with a girl was literally his childhood girl next door crush he was oneitising for years, who he ended up sleeping with on and off for years. Someone he still sees a few times a year because their families are close, and who basically became my "best friend" on his side of the family since she is always so nice and welcoming to me. They were never a couple but he was essentially her on call dildo. Mind you, we didn't meet until over a decade after they stopped (she ended it everytime because she got annoyed at how clingy he was, yet still exploited it and called him back whenever she wanted sex) and we never had sex until after we got married. I was a virgin but I was open to sleeping with him before we got married but he was always against it saying that it's not right and that we should wait.

Even though I'm hotter and younger than her, I freak out every now and then over her. Especially after I see her, not only because she is still very beautiful, but because it reminds me the she was able to have him so easily and on command where as he made us wait.

Be honest with me. For a guy who has only slept with one other person, would their pair bond still be strong, at least on his end? I know she was a slut so it was probably nothing to her but I feel so intimidated by the dynamic they had seeing that he never wanted to be with anyone for that long until I came along. And the fact I'm very different to her

>>21301348
Many years ago my wife used to be a complete psycho and extremely abusive. Mentally, phsyically and emotionally. Got so bad to the point where she pulled a knife on md with a genuine attempt to kill me. I managed to stop it and subdue her, but then had like a mental breakdown in front of her and cowered on the floor. I fully expected to die that night but then from that day on she stopped all her psycho shit and we eventually got married. It's extremely upsetting and weird when I think about it now lol